This is the final part in the Attaining the Unattained series.

Attaining the Unattained
Attaining the Unattained (2)
Attaining the Unattained (3)

Know there are always extreme circumstance. The outcome of this is one of two. Either you succeed or you fail. Either way, their beginnings are always the same. The same in that, either success or failure is a stepping stone to another level. All depends on how your view scope is. My success today may be undermined tomorrow and so I need to use my success today to begin a new thing. Every time you achieve a thing; there is room to begin again something new.

Totality of the Human Mind with CHRIST

To wrap things up, your greatest challenge and conduct comes in when you tap in your psyche to form connections. Networking is a key stuff in attaining what you have not yet attained. Dealing with a challenge is to know somebody who knows somebody who knows somebody who is at the top. They can connect you to your destiny.
Socio-spiritual existence is what we call this nature of lifestyle which can catapult you to attaining. One needs social and spiritual intelligence to connect and form the appropriate networks. A psycho-socio-spiritually fit individual is someone who embodies a profound awareness that manifests across various dimensions of their existence.

Firstly, they possess a keen understanding of their identity, recognizing the essence of whom they are at their core. Simultaneously, they acknowledge their roots, understanding the significance of where they come from, appreciating the cultural, familial, and personal influences that have shaped them.
In the present, this person is acutely aware of their current position in life. They navigate their circumstances with a conscious mindfulness, attuned to the dynamics of their environment. Anticipating the journey ahead, they project a vision of where they are going, armed with aspirations and goals that provide purpose and direction.

A Christian: A Psycho-Socio-Spiritually Fit Person

Moreover, a psycho-socio-spiritual individual acknowledges the inevitability of challenges along their path. They not only recognize these obstacles but possess the capacity to identify and understand them when they arise. Armed with a resilient spirit, they skilfully navigate through adversities, knowing how to uphold themselves and persevere.
In their journey, these individuals exhibit a profound capability to confront the uncertainties of outcomes. They embrace both success and failure as integral parts of their growth, equipped with the wisdom to learn and evolve from each experience.

In essence, the psycho-socio-spiritual person epitomizes a holistic understanding of self, past, present, and future, fostering resilience and adaptability in the face of life’s intricate tapestry through the Grace of Our Lord Jesus Christ.

Navigating the Spiritual Dynamics of Relationships: The Power to Keep Your Home.

Understanding the Challenges in Modern Relationships

In the contemporary landscape of relationships, navigating the spiritual dimensions has become increasingly vital, especially when it comes to sustaining marriages. The challenges faced by couples today are unprecedented, marked by a myriad of complexities and trials that test the very fabric of their love and commitment.

Rethinking Marriage: Investing in Wisdom and Understanding

It’s undeniable that relationships are under immense strain in our current era. Seemingly trivial issues can escalate into major rifts, threatening the foundation of even the most solid unions. The unraveling of marriages often stems from a lack of wisdom and understanding in handling conflicts and nurturing the bond between partners. Today’s social media moment has a lot to do with this.

The Role of Power and Wisdom in Sustaining Marital Bonds

In many cases, lavish wedding ceremonies overshadow the crucial need for investing in marital education and equipping couples with the tools to navigate the intricacies of married life. Marriage, contrary to popular belief, does not solely rely on love; rather, it thrives on wisdom, discernment, and a willingness to compromise for the greater good of the union.

True marital success lies not in the grandeur of the wedding ceremony but in the depth of understanding and mutual respect between spouses. A wise husband recognizes the importance of humility and compromise, while a wise wife understands the significance of supporting her partner and fostering harmony in the home.

Embracing God’s Design for Marriage and Leadership

Marriage, as ordained by God, operates on principles of mutual submission and respect. It’s not about asserting dominance or proving intellectual superiority but about embracing the roles assigned by divine order. Following God’s design for marriage requires humility, patience, and a willingness to trust in His wisdom.

Cultivating Change and Strength in Relationships

The journey of marriage is marked by growth, transformation, and the continuous pursuit of harmony. It’s about recognizing that change is possible and that even the most challenging dynamics can be overcome through the power of God’s grace and wisdom.

In conclusion, the power to keep a home transcends mere human effort; it emanates from a deep-rooted faith in God’s plan for marriage and a commitment to embodying His principles in every aspect of marital life. By embracing wisdom, humility, and a spirit of cooperation, couples can forge enduring bonds that withstand the tests of time and adversity.

Attaining The Unattained

Fourth, where are you going to.

The majority do not know where they are going to. To understand how you got here, one needs to know where they are coming from. Your original identity shapes the path to your present and then the future. Where a person is going to has a lot to do with our goals and aspirations. There are individuals in communities who are destined to be in a particular location because that is where their linage occupied. They know where they are going to!

The fifth point is to know that there are giants in the land!

There are challenges along the way. Know that this life is full of challenges you need to manoeuvre. This is the point you find out how to get to the destination. How do you get through the cross roads with lots of signs? You know where you are going to. Have you anticipated the challenges you might face?

Sixth is to recognise challenges.

When you recognise there is a challenge (the giants), you are able to mange the situation better. When you meet the anticipated challenge, your creativity set in to mitigate it. You do not think how to deal with the challenge. Many get stuck here because we meet these challenges by error, or what I mean to say is, by chance and we have no set up plan to manage the situation.

Knowing how to uphold your self is the seventh.

One of the ways to deal with challenges is to know to conduct yourself in the public place. If you do not have value for yourself, you will misbehave in the crowd. Many of us talk carelessly, in view to show our personality. Respect, many forget, comes to those who earn it. People want to reverence you because of your quality. Not the size of your mouth. We end up divulging personal secrets in public. Please speak and inform in a need to know basis. Always ask, does this person need to know this now? How a person conducts themselves in public matters.

Transformative Power: Building a Life of Purpose through Christ

In the hustle and bustle of our daily lives, it’s easy to get caught up in the pursuit of success, security, and significance. However, Psalm 127:1-5 reminds us that unless the Lord is the architect of our dreams and endeavours, our efforts are in vain. “Unless the Lord builds the house, the builders labour in vain. Unless the Lord watches over the city, the guards stand watch in vain.” As believers, we are called to surrender our plans and ambitions to God, trusting that He is the ultimate builder and sustainer of our lives.

Psalm 107:20 reinforces the power of God’s spoken word. “He sent out his word and healed them; he rescued them from the grave.” In times of sickness or despair, the healing touch of God is readily available through His word. The very utterance of His promises brings salvation from destruction, demonstrating the miraculous nature of our God.

As Christians, we carry within us the essence of miracles. John 3 emphasises the transformative power of being born again. “Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God.” This profound rebirth signifies a change of heart, allowing us to embrace new possibilities, break free from stagnation, and embark on a journey of continuous learning and growth.

Change is Eminent

Often, we find ourselves in situations that seem insurmountable, convincing us that change is impossible. We might believe we’re too old to pursue education, learn new skills, or dress smartly. Yet, the truth lies in Christ, who declares in Matthew 19:26, “With man this is impossible, but with God, all things are possible.” His limitless power dismantles our self-imposed limitations, making the seemingly unchangeable areas of our lives fertile ground for transformation.

2 Corinthians 5:17 echoes this transformation in Christ. “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!” The old self, burdened by sin and limitations, is replaced by a new and redeemed creation. We are no longer bound by our past but are set free to live a life filled with purpose and divine possibilities.

In the midst of life’s challenges, Jesus remains our guiding light. John 10:10 contrasts the thief who seeks to steal, kill, and destroy with Christ, who offers rest and abundant life. When we invite Jesus into our lives, we experience a divine exchange—He takes away our burdens and replaces them with His peace, joy, and purpose.

As believers, let us anchor our lives in the promises of God, allowing His transformative power to shape our destinies. In Christ, we are not confined by our circumstances; we are empowered to attain the unattained and live a life that glorifies Him.

Attaining the Unattained: Untold Truth

The truth? You still want to know the truth? Do you know you cannot get wealth by just remaining inside the confines of the law? Those who rub shoulders with the law are those who test its borders. You do not need to break the law. No! Because he that breaks the hedge, the snake would bite and therefore, get near to the hedge and carefully observe where the snake is so you can peep through the safest part of the hedge to see if the grass is greener at the other side. What I mean is you need to know the extent of your current boundary.
Which also means, when you know who you are (your personality), you would know how far you can go. Ask yourself this question. Why is it that all successful, wealthy persons of value in the community are known to the law enforcements authorities? You haven’t scratched the surface of real success yet if those guys do not know about you yet!

Seven Key Steps of Awareness

1. Who are you?

The question here is “Who are you?” In this case you need to know the answer to “Who am I? ” Jesus said, I know who I am. I am here for this purpose as Christ. Our Lord and Leader know who He is! You need to know who you are. Knowing who you are is not a bad thing at all to attain the unattained.

2. Know where you are coming from.

Know the important thing where you are coming from and the customs, culture and traditions where you are coming from. Many people have a broad or general idea of where they are coming from or the area where they are coming from. However, it is important to know the specifics. This is because you are linked with your origins somewhat. Well, believe it or not, you present some characteristics with the people of your area!

3. Know where you are.

Where are you now?? Many people live in a foreign land but do not know the principles which operate where they are. Understanding the environment you are in is crucial for adapting and thriving in unfamiliar territories. It’s not just about the physical location, but also the cultural, social, and even professional context that surrounds you. When you find yourself in a new place, taking the time to comprehend the dynamics at play can significantly impact your overall experience and success in that environment.

Whether it’s entering a new workplace, moving to a different country, or simply navigating through unfamiliar social circles, being aware of the principles and norms governing that specific space is invaluable. It allows you to make informed decisions, interact effectively with others, and avoid unintentionally causing offense or misunderstanding.

In other words, recognising the principles at play can guide you in aligning your actions with the expectations of the environment, ultimately fostering smoother integration and more meaningful connections. This awareness provides a solid foundation for building relationships, pursuing opportunities, and contributing positively to the community around you.

In essence, knowing “where you are” goes beyond geographical coordinates; it encompasses a profound understanding of the dynamics and principles that shape the world you currently inhabit. It’s a fundamental aspect of effective adaptation and successful navigation through the diverse landscapes of life.

Recognizing the Reality of a Fallen World

Simply put, we live in a fallen world. A world that has been marred through and through, corrupted, tainted by sin. And that’s where we are. And if we are objectively honest in the world as we know it today, there’s much more misery than there is happiness. There’s much more strife than there is peace. There’s much more sickness than there is health. Have you also realised that?

Thank God our final destiny is not in this world. Paul said something which has really impacted me in 1 Corinthians 15:19. I’ve thought about so many of the Christians I meet. If in this life only we have hope in Christ, we are of all men the most to be pitied. Ponder that for a moment.

Shifting Perspectives: From Time to Eternity

If all you’re expecting from Christ is in this earthly life, you are of all the most pitiable. And yet I meet so many Christians who seem to be totally preoccupied with what happens in this life. And their concept of Christianity is getting something from God in this world. That is absolutely alien to the picture of the New Testament.

So it is very, very healthy for us to be pressured by the Holy Spirit into considering the end of time and the beginning of eternity in the life of each one of us. In Hebrews 13:14, the writer says, we have no continuing city here but we look for the one which is to come. Now, is that true of you? Where is your permanent life? Is it in this world? Don’t you realize that this is only temporary? We’re just as they say passing through and our permanent destination is in eternity? If you only can see the things of time and not eternity, you will be an unhappy person. You’ll be a frustrated person. You’ll always be complaining, things aren’t going the way I want. God isn’t answering my prayers. The reason is you have the wrong perspective. You have to look at life from the point of view of eternity. Because time is not permanent, but eternity is.

Enduring Riches: Wisdom’s Gift for Eternity

And I would ask you, how much are you building in your own life for eternity? Scripture says that God has given us, through wisdom in the book of Proverbs – enduring riches.
I’ve spent a lot of time saying to myself, what are enduring riches? They’re not money in a bank, they’re not stocks and shares nor properties. They’re not the fancy car we drive or the home we live in. None of those are enduring riches.

Character as Currency: The Permanence of a Godly Foundation

Enduring riches? Jesus said, sell what you have and give to the poor and you’ll have treasure in heaven. That’s enduring riches. Jesus said, whatever you give to the cause of the gospel, God will give it back a hundredfold in eternity. And then one more thing, which to me is very important. Our gifts will cease when life ends. All our spiritual gifts, our prophecy, our miracles, our words of knowledge, they’ll come to an end. We will not take them with us. They’re only for this world, only for time. But one thing we will take with us, you know what that is? Our character. Character is permanent. And what we are in our character will determine what we will be throughout eternity. That’s lasting, enduring riches, the building of a pure, strong, godly Christian character.

The 3D+D Route to Achieving The Unattained

In this introduction, let’s explore the 3D+D Route to achieving the unattained. These Ds are fundamental prerequisites for achieving what seems unattainable. A significant number of us fail to reach our goals because we lack dedication and discipline.

About a year ago, many of us made New Year’s resolutions and had wishes, but deep down, we knew we wouldn’t achieve them. Why? Due to a lack of dedication and discipline to take even the first step. How do I know this? Because the beginning of next year is now. Therefore, whatever you haven’t started doing this year, you cannot carry over to the next year!

They say, “Charity begins at home”. This is where I emphasise the third D → Devotion. Devotion is a crucial requirement to understand in order to achieve your desires and satisfy your needs. A devout person is someone who God allow Grace to orderly deliver the required cheat sheet and The Holy Spirit appropraitely organises tihis information in a structred manner for them. In Luke 14:28, it is implied: “Which of you, wanting to build a house, would not first plan?” Therefore, the initial steps to achieving the unattainable involve getting a notepad, writing down the requirements you think are needed to achieve those heartfelt desires. At this point, you are on your way to attaining your wishes.

Remember, Jesus said to us that He is the Way (John14:6) → Discipline, the Light (John 8:12) → Dedication, and the Life → Devotion. Throughout His earthly ministry, He demonstrated these qualities to both his followers and unbelievers alike.

He who shines light in the dark gives life, and He who sustains life in his neighbour gives them light to continue the journey.

The Truth

In Joshua 1:8, a vital scripture is hidden in plain sight. It implies, “Your word must be the law.” When your word becomes law, you can bind the 3 Ds together to form another D. This concept is drawn from Genesis 1:26 – our original mandate. Also, picking the final piece from John 14:6: the only way you can be free is if you know the truth. Not as the world gives, but the truth which is a mystery on its own.

To know and understand this truth, you need a personal relationship with Christ in perfection to discover it. It is when your word is perfect, you will make your way prosperous, and then you will achieve success. This success is when you have Dominion – The Truth. This perfection or mystery is what the Lord Jesus expects you to discover for yourself (Joshua 1:8b). The truth, which is the concept of right and wrong, makes no sense until you discover it for yourself.

Have you ever taken time to ask yourself why did I used to ask God WHY? We sometimes ask God the question why? Why this and why that! Why did that opportunity pass me by? Have you also paused to think “What do I think the reply of God would be if I could clearly hear Him?” We can speculate and say that He might ask you “Why asking me why?” or “Why do you choose to do it your way?”
The life you live is constructed by you. We always think it is God’s time. The Bible says there is a time a season for everything (Eccl. 3:1). Do you actually think that it would take God all this time for us to achieve this or that thing? God keeps training us gradually till He then presents us with an opportunity to see if we can recognise it as opportunity and take it. It might be small but…. it is still an opportunity.
We normally arrogantly allow the fish to pass and when the big ones finish passing we cry foul. Either we are looking for a bigger thing and the smaller ones we could use for foundation passed us by or we are looking for smaller things only and the big one we have now passes us by.

Barriers to opportunity

The younger generations today do not want to listen to the advice of the older ones just as we did not listen to our older ones. The question is who are we that the younger ones should look on to us? So the question in those days was who were those older ones that we could look on to them?
There is something inside you that your child is looking onto and if that thing is better, they think is on the streets, than in you they go to the street for it. The parent is the biggest and the best role model for the child (Prov. 22:6).

Spreading from Integration
Making use of now is to make use of the tools available to you. At times your life
can be made use of by others in the community. Make use of the tools you have now. There are reading materials out there to motivate you to greater heights so please make use of now.
What makes you uniques is that you are special than the next person you are dealing with. Ask this: How sustainable is that office you have today? Do you test your skills? Challenges are good for us all because they brings out the best in us so test yourself all the time. Anything you want to do there are many resources out there, today we have YouTube and the internet for us to learn from.
Never think you are the best today and be big headed; for a time comes soon that someone would come to challenge you. We need the power of the Holy Spirit for now to realise or manifest the future. Practice is good however, if you do not have passion in that thing you are practicing, you would never be good at it. Passion will make you put an effort in everything you do.
Can God use you now? God can make use of you now for anything He wants. The anointing of God can fall on anybody He chooses to perform with. This anointing is the Holy Spirit of God to function. If you are the only person available to be used, God would use you. Because God has used someone to perform a miracle does not means that they are making heaven.
It is a chance not a right to do the work of God. Explore the opportunity you have to do God’s work. It is the only work you do not contest for and God has always raised someone in the community to do His work.

It has become so natural for many of us Christians in particular to continue living in the past. We naturally forget about today. The presence is so far to many of us. Christianity of today is to deal with our ability to link the living of today into that of yester-years and forge a way to sustain our tomorrow.

Living in the past

Many times we find ourselves far behind schedule. We have to develop things that would make us move forward. There must be changes in our concepts and mentality. successful people aer specially trained to explore where there is weakness and that is where there are things that will make you move forward. Success concepts looks at places of weakness. That is where the opportunity is! It is by being the best in that area. what is the rational behind fight a man in his strongest area.
A football match is won by exploring the weakness of the opponent. That is why we need to understand as Christians that your opponent is not your enemy. The opponent brings out the best in us and that only happens when we are alert to the environment. The opponent has understudy you so that is how they understood your weakness.
Christianity has nothing to do with age; I have seen a miracle happen through a five-year old just as well as an eighty year old. The strategy is that you have to think that, this thing that I am doing, I have to be good in it so that if tomorrow some one else comes to challenge me would I still be the best in that thing?
It is the life we live today that is going to influence our tomorrow. This means we need the power of the Holy Spirit for now and to manifest the future.